So yesterday a picture of a guy with blood all over his face and hands rapidly spread via the social media in Belgium. It was taken at the Christmas village "Winter Wonderland" in Hasselt. The subscript said "This is what happens to when you are gay at the skating ring of Winter Wonderland. Thanks to the security guards and organisation." It immediately provoked a lot of reactions on how intollerant and dreadful the live standards of gay people in Belgium still are.
At the beginning it was shocking and gradually you got an impression of how many support there is for banning gaybashing. Nevertheless, some nuance is called for. A lot of people immediately showed sincere sympathy for the guy and his boyfriend. Even if they did not know them. And more importantly, did not know the facts!
Of course it is incredibly heartwarming to see such reactions. Nonetheless, the reality was partly conveyed by the rapid speed of the social media. The sources were not 100% waterproof. There seems to be a different side to the story, which wasn't interesting enough to spread. Apparently, he and his 'boyfriend' were getting into each others pants where children were present. They did not wanted to adjust their behaviour when asked by other people. As a result, the security asked them again, they became agressive and refused. The security asked them to leave, so they became even more agressive and refused. They where thrown out and one of them fell on the floor, causing the bleed.
In the end, it is not up to me to judge what actually happened. If they did use their sexual orientation as a false excuse to misbehave in public and be arrogant. Shame on them! If it was indeed a matter of intolerance, we can only gain courage from the fact that so many people showed support so fast. Hence, irrespective of the truth about this incidence, I think it still is reasonable to judge Belgium as one of the best places to live as a gay guy.
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On another note, as a PhD student it is hard to find some spare time nowadays. The last week I have been preparing to present the provisional of my masterpaper to the rest of our research department. Kind of scary, let that be clear. The professors don't spare any opportunity to criticise an assumption, result, ... Presenting as a doctoral researcher is definitely different from presenting your work as a regular student. Nonetheless, they all do it to point out things you can improve or get you thinking about other perspectives before submitting it. So, although it all was quite overwhelming, I survived. My promotor even said it was a very clear and good presentation.
Ooh, and Christmas is approaching! So I'm continuously in a good mood. We've decorated our new home last week. It looks marvellous ... Now the preparations for our Christmas party have started. Selecting a range of sweets to bake, doing groceries, and so on. I'm thrilled because over 30 people agreed with our invitations. It's going to be nice to see all those people again. More on that later ;)
